Coaching For Individuals

Stuck in a pattern you can see, but can’t seem to break?
I help people understand what’s actually keeping them stuck: wounds, conditioning, old stories… so they can build something different, with clarity.

You might be in the right place if…

You’re stuck in patterns you can see but can’t break in love, work, or how you relate to yourself.
You’ve never had a relationship that felt truly right, and you want to understand your own patterns first/
You’re going through a separation, a career transition, or a major life change that’s shaken how you see yourself.
You want to build real confidence – not the performed kind, the kind that actually holds.
You want a calmer, more conscious relationship with stress, work, and your own mind.
You’re motivated but blocked, and want help moving instead of more reasons why you should.

I work with people one-on-one, online or in person.

What Working With Me Looks Like

We start with a free 15-minute conversation.

You tell me where things are stuck. I’ll give you my honest read: what I think is going on, and how we could work on it. No pressure, no pitch.

Then we go deeper, at your pace.

Sessions move between two modes. Sometimes we look back – at the wounds, conditioning, and patterns that got you here. Other times, we look forward: building new strategies, new skills, and a new way of being.

You leave with clarity, and tools to practice.

I don’t tell people what to do. I help them see clearly, give them tools, and they decide. My job is to empower you. I’ll give you homework – small practices that build the muscles you’ll keep using long after we stop working together.

In addition to more tailored counseling approaches:

Personal Growth & Confidence Coaching

Builds self-awareness, self-esteem, and confidence in personal and professional life. Helps you understand what’s been shaping how you show up, and how to take ownership of your growth.

Mindset Coaching

Helps you shift limiting beliefs and adopt a more positive, growth-oriented perspective. The work of changing the lens through which you see your life.

Goal-Setting & Motivation Coaching

Defining what you actually want, planning how to get there, and sustaining the effort to follow through. For people who keep getting stuck between intention and action.

Stress & Time Management Coaching

Practical tools for managing stress, setting priorities, and using your time and energy in ways that match what matters to you.

Wellness & Work-Life Balance Coaching

Creating a balanced lifestyle: setting health goals, fostering physical, mental, and emotional well-being, and finding a rhythm between your professional and personal life.

Career Coaching

Whether you’re clarifying your career direction, navigating a transition (layoff, career shift, retirement), or working through a job search — career work that connects to who you are, not just what you do.

The key is to understand your wounds and conditioning, so you become 'Allies in Healing' rather than adversaries in pain. —The Wizard of Love

Who’s Bernard?

I spent 20 years building businesses in California: a gym, a tech company, a bookkeeping practice. I was good at achieving things. But I kept coming back to the same question: why are connection and relationships so hard for most of us and how can we be more at choice with our decisions, instead of functioning on autopilot a lot of the time.
My goal became Inner Freedom: removing all the obstacles to being at choice in all circumstances, and creating thriving relationships.

I spent years studying what actually makes relationships work and how to free myself: NVC, emotional intelligence, trauma-informed coaching and counseling. Eventually I quit my tech practice and began supporting people’s freedom and growth. I’ve worked with hundreds of people since then.

What I bring to every session: no agenda, no bias, no judgment, simply a lifetime of experience, wisdom and practices. I’ve lived across four continents and three languages, and have encountered all kinds of relationships.
We’re all different so I’m not going to tell you what your relationship should look like. I will show you what’s possible and empower you to figure out what you actually want.

Credentials

Certified Relationship and Personal Development Coach & Counselor
Trained at Interchange Counseling Institute, Union Institute, Ecology of Leadership, The Evolutionary Collective
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Expert
Men’s Group Facilitator
10+ years, hundreds of clients

FAQs - The Wizard of Love answers your questions

What is the difference between counseling and coaching?

The difference between counseling and coaching is that counseling helps you address past issues to improve your present well-being, while coaching focuses on developing new strategies to help you grow and move forward into the future.

Is this therapy?

It’s adjacent to therapy but different. I’m a certified counselor and coach, not a clinical psychologist. I work on patterns, relationships, growth, and inner freedom. If what you need is clinical mental health care, I’ll tell you and help you find the right person.

Do I have to know what's wrong before we start?

No. Most people don’t. That’s part of what the first sessions are for: naming what’s actually going on. You bring the situation, I bring the questions.

How long does this take?

It depends on what you’re working with. Some people come for a specific decision and get clear in a few sessions. Others want a longer container: a few months of deeper work. We’ll talk about what makes sense after the first conversation.

Online or in person?

All sessions are available online (worldwide) and in person (when you’re in Thailand). The work is the same.